Dealing With Dark Days: How To

Is the day over yet? Did I make it through? What time is it? Can I go to bed yet? Do I have to go hangout with that friend?

You sit on the couch, lay in your bed, or pace the house. You feel so numb to all that is going on around you. You search for things that will make you feel something again. Music, T.V shows, texting a friend, going for a walk, making a healthy meal, worshiping, praying, journaling. Anything to give you hope and get out of that funk you’re in. But nothing helps. Nothing sparks the numb feeling away.

You don’t understand. Life is good. You shouldn’t feel this way. Isn’t God supposed to not let you feel like this? You start thinking, “something is wrong with me. I am not trying hard enough. I need to just keep trying harder. That’ll fix me.”

“No one wishes to have dark days, sleepless nights, grumpy mornings, and this endless dark tunnel with no sign that it ever ends. “

Have you ever felt this way?

One minute life is incredible and the next you feel pushed down beneath the weight of a million pounds?

Its a scary, lonely, horrible place. A place I know better than I wish I did.

These kind of days are a part of life.

That’s right, no matter how good of a person you think you are, no matter how many self-help books you read, and no matter how much positivity you have around you, you are still going to have dark days. I used to think that if I was making good decisions and had all positive surroundings then I would be exempt from those dreadful days. Boy was I wrong.

You are probably now thinking, “if I am guaranteed to have horrible days, is there any way to make them less horrible?”

I’m so glad you asked.. ;)

how do you make dark days less dark?

There is nothing easy about waking up feeling depressed, hopeless, and unmotivated for what feels like no reason. But, there are things you can do to help your mind pull through the day and make it a bit easier on yourself.

  1. Take inventory of your life

    I suggest writing everything down by yourself first. This gives you a chance to process where YOUR mind has been and how YOU have been feeling without the influence of someone else.The important part is to get it out of your mind and in front of your eyes. Write down every little detail of what is going on in your life, along with your feelings toward that specific area. How is your job? Friendships? Significant other? Family? Mode of transportation? Get out every single detail.

  2. Do things that make you feel good

    This is quite broad, but for good reason. Don’t let the negative feelings give you an excuse to make poor choices whether that is skipping work/school, eating poorly, or being lazy about your day. All of those things will make you feel 100x worse. Trust me. Instead, make yourself eat healthy meals all day long, dress in an outfit you feel amazing in, make your hair look nice, break a sweat, and read an inspirational quote/devotion/bible verse (from google, pinterest, bible, a book). Stick to your routine as much as possible. Although, you won’t feel like making the choice initially, once you do you will feel so much better.

  3. Talk to someone

    Now that you have had a chance to process everything on your own for a bit and had time to do something that makes you feel good, talking with someone you know and trust is absolutely crucial to getting out of this funk. When dark times come the feelings and emotions can last for days if you keep trying to fix it in the dark. Having a positive, external perspective from someone who understands will be the key to helping you out. This person should be someone who will be able to give you positive and honest feedback. Let them speak what they feel is going on and give you advice when applicable. Don’t be afraid of telling someone where you are. I know it can be terrifying, but I promise that someone will understand and want to help.

  4. Laugh

    Just freaking laugh. Search funny cat videos on Youtube ( I don’t care how many times you have seen them, I guarantee you will laugh all over again), play the game Speak Out, watch a funny movie, be goofy with your friends. Find anything that will bring a smile to your face, even if you have to force it. Laughter truly is the cure to all things.

“There are bright days and dark days. We must take take advantage of the former, and be as little discouraged about the latter. They are all in a lifetime, and the only way to have sunshine is to accept them both when they come and keep close to God.”

I hope these help you if you are going through one of those dark, depressing days today or when one comes in the future. They have all worked wonders for me on my darkest days. I know it feels like it will never end and you’re going to be stuck in this rut forever, but you won’t. You will get out of it, tomorrow is a new day, and you will be high on cloud nine before you know it.

Just don’t give up.

All my love,