Most, if not all of you, know by now that I made a big move just about 21 months ago. It was the most exciting, adventurous, and terrifying thing I have ever done. I had so much hope and excitement that moving 800 miles away would open so many opportunities, that I would gain a new perspective on the world, and I would find “my people” for life.
And I have. In every way.
Friendship seems to be the bond that holds communities together.
Living in a strange, new place definitely has some drawbacks.
Like… not knowing a single soul, being unfamiliar with your surroundings, having days where you feel like its just you against the big ol’world, days where you lose hope and feel like everything that could go wrong, does, with no one to help you like you used to once have.
If you have enough days like that you, (okay okay, when I have days like that), I lose sight of why I am here, that life was way better before, that if I can only get back to where I was, THEN life will look up and be better. I want to live in the past, so I begin filtering my everyday reality through that lens, and it becomes a downward spiral from there.
So here it is, the most important thing to create for yourself when you are in a completely new place. The key to keeping you from hitting that downward spiral and from those bad days from hitting so hard.
Having people around me to keep me in a positive mindset, to lean on when those hard days do come (cause they do), and to make plans with and grow together has been the difference between having hope and faith and being a complete wreck on those difficult days.
In my daily devotional book, 100 Days to Brave, the author talks about brave people needing people. We ALL need a solid community of positive, driven, God-loving, supportive people around us. Jesus makes this very clear in Ecclesiastes when he says,
“You are better off to have a friend than be all alone, because then you will get more enjoyment out of what you earn. If you fall, your friend can help you up. But if you fall without having a friend nearby, you are really in trouble.”
Now, I am not going to lie to you and tell you that if you find friends it’s going to be all rainbows and sunshine the rest of the way, cause for One, making GOOD friends is WAY harder than you think it will be and Two, we aren’t promised all the good days no matter how good of a person we are, but if you want to succeed where you are, make the most of the season you are in, and have support through the tough times, then seeking out friendship, community, and support is going to be the key to making that happen.
My advice and challenge to you is to begin being more open to new kinds of people. If you are struggling to find good friends it may be because you are stuck that you only get along with one kind of person or you don’t want to be open to people who think differently. Or maybe you need to put yourself out there more and stop waiting for them to come to you, cause they won’t.
I know how scary and difficult it is. Believe me. It has been the hardest, most uncomfortable thing I have had to do, but let me tell you something. Its so WORTH IT.
If you are truly struggling to find support and just need someone to talk to, please please please don’t hesitate to send me a message. I would love nothing more than to get to know you!
All the best,
p.s enjoy these pictures of my beautiful, wonderful, lovely friends. ;)